Are you a victim or a victor in Christ?
So many Christians live under the weight of a “victims mentality.” Often the original offense which led them down this path stretches back many years, even decades. Yet nearly every aspect of their life today is affected by what happened way back then.
Please understand, I am in no way making light of being wounded, abused, or intentionally hurt by others. We have all been there to at least some degree. But, there comes a time when you must let go of the past and move on with life. Failure to do so will cause us to live in a constant cycle of all the negative emotions associated with being a victim. Even worse, those who choose to live with a victims mentality often pass all the negative emotions associated with their trauma onto their children. The children in these cases may never understand why they feel the way they do, it’s just part of their wiring.
You may think that your only hope for freedom is held in check by the actions of another: if they would apologize; if they would be held accountable; if I saw them pay for what they did to me, etc. But nothing “they” do is going to set you free. In the case of physical abuse, by all means, report them to the proper authorities. If for no other reason, to save others from abuse. But, seeing your abuser judged and penalized will not heal your wounds. Only Jesus can do that. In the case of mental, emotional, or even spiritual abuse, if you are in a position to affect change, do so. But don’t spend the rest of your life blaming someone else for the choices you are making…move on!
Dear friend, the truth is, you do not need an apology to heal. You don’t need to see them suffer. You don’t need to punish them. You need to let Jesus heal your wounded spirit and He can do that based on His work on the cross alone. "Looking unto Jesus the author and finisher of our faith; who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is set down at the right hand of the throne of God." (Hebrews 12:2)
What would God do for, and through you if you would only let go of the past and choose instead to live in God’s amazing grace this very moment?
- Jon Curtis Isaacs